When I made the decision to move to Auckland, one of the factors was being closer to my Mum and caring for her and eventually maybe we could encourage her to live with us in the big smoke. Being with this wonderful woman everyday would just bring me such joy.
When I visited with her for a week recently, down in the Mighty Waikato, I realized that Mum wasn't going anywhere...she loved her life where she was, she had a great support network and great friends and the biggest thing of all she was happy. I tentatively asked her would she be interested in moving and the answer was a flat out NO. And as I thought more about it I realized that it would just so selfish to ask her to move somewhere I now know she would be unhappy. By the time my visit was over and I was on the bus back to the City of Sails, I knew that my journey was about to take off down another path.
During the course of my making the decision to move North, I didn't want to move to Mums small community...I thought that there was no job opportunities...no social life...it was in the middle of nowhere and I certainly wouldn't make any friends there...that's the reason Auckland was the choice of where I would go - based on employment goals and the excitement of exploring this great big city, rather than the small town where my Mamma lived. I would just commute there as regularly as I could until we convinced her to live with us in Auckland so we could look after her.
Now how wrong was I when I realized that that small little community that my Mamma was so happy in was EXACLY my speed. Why uproot her when she was happy and I could be happy there too. Everything was achievable...job...social life...friends...great community system, also a fantastic library, beautiful views and peace and quiet. I had support and connections there without even knowing. I realized that the fast pace of life is not for me and I enjoy the quieter side of life...I like my own company and doing things that I enjoy doing...reading, puzzles, scrapbooking, walking, try to maintain a small vegetable garden (I have very limited experience with this activity), some flowers in a pot, crafts, watching movies and TV series, baking and cooking, living intentionally and reducing my carbon footprint AND I like doing these things in my own time. The life my Auckland babes live is hectic and at times so chaotic you can't hear yourself think let alone keep up - they are a young family with 3 kiddies so they are always on the go. So as much as I have enjoyed this experience in Auckland - the pace and the noise is not my scene on a day to day basis - I am making plans to join my Mamma in her small community within 18 months or if I can pull it together faster, sooner. I need to get some $$ behind me and start setting myself up to move again. So thankfully I have just had a job offer this week that will set those wheels in motion and with the nature of the work, will help get me the 'material' items I need together.
I have enjoyed being in the City of Sails and the adventures I've had so far. There are still a few goals here I wouldn't mind achieving, places that I would like to see and there's still time to make lots more memories and at the end of the day, my Auckland babes will only be a 2.5hrs car ride away. It definitely isn't the end of being in the City Of Sails, but I'm am looking at a different path then the one that I originally planned for next year.
Now how wrong was I when I realized that that small little community that my Mamma was so happy in was EXACLY my speed. Why uproot her when she was happy and I could be happy there too. Everything was achievable...job...social life...friends...great community system, also a fantastic library, beautiful views and peace and quiet. I had support and connections there without even knowing. I realized that the fast pace of life is not for me and I enjoy the quieter side of life...I like my own company and doing things that I enjoy doing...reading, puzzles, scrapbooking, walking, try to maintain a small vegetable garden (I have very limited experience with this activity), some flowers in a pot, crafts, watching movies and TV series, baking and cooking, living intentionally and reducing my carbon footprint AND I like doing these things in my own time. The life my Auckland babes live is hectic and at times so chaotic you can't hear yourself think let alone keep up - they are a young family with 3 kiddies so they are always on the go. So as much as I have enjoyed this experience in Auckland - the pace and the noise is not my scene on a day to day basis - I am making plans to join my Mamma in her small community within 18 months or if I can pull it together faster, sooner. I need to get some $$ behind me and start setting myself up to move again. So thankfully I have just had a job offer this week that will set those wheels in motion and with the nature of the work, will help get me the 'material' items I need together.
I have enjoyed being in the City of Sails and the adventures I've had so far. There are still a few goals here I wouldn't mind achieving, places that I would like to see and there's still time to make lots more memories and at the end of the day, my Auckland babes will only be a 2.5hrs car ride away. It definitely isn't the end of being in the City Of Sails, but I'm am looking at a different path then the one that I originally planned for next year.
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